A One Way Voyage........

I live life not the way I want it. I live life the way I decided. Decisions never always reflect what you want. Whether it's a mistake or not, it is the way God wanted it to be. Not known for now, but there is a reason, for I have died once, yet lived again. Be it fraught with upsets, at the end of the road, for as long as I can say "I have not harmed a soul", then it withstood the waves and the journey was perfect.-Falcon116

Sunday, May 24

THE SATURDAY DINNER

Jashkah's real birthday as you know was last Thursday, but we celebrated it with friends yesterday here in our house. Last Thursday however, we took Jashkah to his favorite resto-NOODLE HOUSE.



Some of the staffs in the restaurant are friends of my husband, and they surprised Jashkah by singing along with the stereo while they brought out a little cheese cake for him as we were about to leave. Well, yeah...Jashkah was so embarrassed but thankful anyhow.
Just an update on his birthday wish...that I sign the parental consent on his McDonald's application form...Yes, I did. I said yes but with too many conditions, mainly:
  • That he only works on certain days and certain hours.
  • That he maintains his school marks-if it goes bad this term, it will mean automatic resignation. No more explanations to be heard.

He said he'll even make it better...Let us wait and see.

I asked him how much he'll be earning per hour, then we calculated how much he'll be earning in a week. Then I said, "...less the tax that you're paying...", he went, "What tax?"

He cringed after I explained what tax is and said, "That's not fair. Is the government really allowed to do that?"

My oh my.

WELCOME TO THE WORLD OF THE ADULTS AND REALITY MY SON!



Thursday, May 21

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY DEAR SON



This afternoon, Jashkah presented me with a couple of forms from school that he said, I needed to sign. One of which is an application form for McDonald's. As in McDonald's the globalised fast food franchise.
I knew my son's 14th birthday is coming up, but I didn't realise part-autonomy, independence and self-sufficiency comes with it. It bothered me a lot, because I've always told my self I will never send my son to work while he's still in school. I will never allow him to experience the satisfaction of earning meagre amount of money because he might think it can readily sustain him for the rest of his life. I wanted him to finish school and get the education that he so rightfully deserve. Education was prime and foremost. Money later.
I decided back then that I will bear all cost and provide him with every single thing he may one day need and want for as long as he's in school. When he's done with his schooling, then he can work and earn his own sweat.
That was my principle...back then.
Then along comes the realisation that part of that education is how you earn your own money, because what comes with it is the learning of the value of your own hard work.
So now, I am in a quagmire of ambiguity. I've been debating and arguing with my self for the last 6 hours since he came home from school. He recently told me that I am 'OVER PROTECTIVE', and that I should let him out a bit...I am lost here. Am I the only mother being accused of being over protective?
But then again...he is now in fact a 14 year old MAN.
I do realise I need to allow him space for some decision-making in his life. It's the only way for him to experience the facts of life.
Back to his overture...more like argument and rationalisation as to why he should work: we are going to Philippines this December for a holiday. He needs spending money.
My argument is: he's got $25.00 allowance every week, therefore he will have spending money if he knows how to save.
His rebuttal: It's not enough.
Mine: Clean up my car and the house every weekend and I'll pay extra.
He, no doubt, wasn't happy with how that ended. As usual, I had the last say...So should all mothers;=)
But it doesn't mean mothers should always win. We should all open our minds and consider their arguments and all avenues. I might sound like a condescending mum, but I am usually a very broad minded mum. I allow reasoning and contemplate on it. And I do not make decisions simply to demonstrate my power. I make my decisions based on arguments presented to me...PLUS...logic.
I haven't made my decision yet, but my son does not know that. He probably thinks that was the end of the discussion.
It really is not easy to be a mum...a mum of a teenager at that. But I am glad that he is now exercising his self-reliance and individuality. It may be too hard to admit, but he is starting to grow his own wings...and I have the responsibility to show him how to make use of those wings and fly...and SOAR HIGH gracefully like a falcon.
So, SOAR HIGH MY DEAR SON...
You will only understand a parent's love once you are one yourself.

Happy birthday Jashkah. I love you so much.

Sunday, May 10

A MOTHERS LOVE


Today I thank my Mum

She who nurtured me

who protected me.

I thank her for loving me then and forever.
I thank the woman

who defied the impossible,

wo made sacrifices

beyond the neeless anxiety
Thank you so much Mum.

I love you forever...


HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY.